Toilet training our masculine counterparts

Dear Mom,
I have a pet peeve and it has been driving me crazy lately - it seems that all men and boys (except my husband and father) NEVER put the toilet seats down after they pee anymore. I go to my friends’ homes, and my sisters’ and mom’s homes and none of their men put the seat down, which amazes me because when I was young, my mom and sisters all lived up in the same house with a father and brothers who ALWAYS put it down. It always seemed to be that way at all my friends’ houses back then, which wasn’t very long ago…what is happening to society? What can I do? It is driving me BONKERS!

Sincerely,
PeePee Pet Peeves

Dear PeePee Pet Peeves,
It sounds like you and your mom trained your men well. Most of us don’t train our guys very well. I was raised in a houseful of males and none of them put the seat down. When I was little I was forever falling in the pot! I didn’t know it was physically possible for a guy to put down the seat–until I met my ex-mother-in-law (what a wonderful woman!) she was the only woman in a houseful of guys. She made her husband and sons sit on the toilet to go. She knew they would never remember to put the seat down and wouldn’t aim well. So when I married her son, it was never a problem and I taught my boys they had to sit also. Now I know that is not very “manly” (I really don’t get that way of thinking) but they never clean the bathroom, either.

I think all women should band together and make their men sit. I just went through that this morning as I was scrubbing around the toilet, I admit I yelled at my current husband that at least at night he has to sit on the throne. When he is half-asleep he has terrible aim. Cleaning bathrooms puts me in a very foul mood. Afterwards, I told my small son he will be sitting from now on!

But to your question: I am glad you came from a family of trained men and you are doing well with the men you live with now. Keep up the good work! Like everything YOU have to make sure they never get away with leaving the seat up. But, sorry to say, you can’t do a darn thing about other women’s men. As long as there are women who put up with this, the seats will remain up. Life is hard and we can only train one household at a time.

Love,
Mom

Mom grew up in Libby, Montana and moved to Idaho with her husband in 1979. She has seven natural children and one adopted child ranging in age from 10 years old to 33 years old.

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